Sunday, June 21, 2015

Pink Cheeks and Dusty Rose Skies



A sleepless night of American television, gradual and sustained jet lag and thoughts swirling through my head like a kaleidoscope of mayhem made for plenty of tossing and turning in my itty bitty bed.

The alarm went off at 8:30 am, but I did not rise until nearly an hour later, waiting for the clean ocean air and bright morning sun to permeate my cavern of solitude by way of room 18 before once again donning my cat suit for a morning run along the ocean front. A travel tradition of mine that continues to be one of my favorite.

I've found that this is the quietest hour in any given city - the morning run hour. My brief experience in Uruguay has shown me that perhaps there is not a noisy one here, or maybe it is just the fact that I have city hopped since I was a teenager and San Francisco, New York and Los Angeles all begin to bustle at some point. Not only does this allow for time to clear my head and get my sweat on, but there are always sights to be seen. 

A lone Guadelupe sits out upon a mountain of shattered shells a few hundred meters past Los Dedos; two blocks over from my hotel. A small shrine built to the Virgin; an amphitheater filled with fake flowers and placards expressing gratitude where this beautiful lady stands. If you've ever had the privilege of visiting my living space you know I have a penchant for religious imagery, Guadalupe in particular. A tattered canvas of her from Peru currently hangs on my wall in New York, the large crucifix from Guatemala put away years ago after my then paramour didn't like the idea of it hanging ominously over my bed. Understood.

So she was a welcomed pit stop this morning. A buenas dia to my soul.

Not too far down the road there was a  fisherman of maybe 45, perched atop the rocky shore flanked by his son, wrapped in a fire engine red coat; his handy assistant riffling through the tackle box. 

My father bought me my own rod and feel many years ago. We would fish on the American River and used vegetarian bait. Needless to say our journeys were not terribly fruitful but memories I have kept close to my heart. Seeing this father and son continuing our tradition without knowing it seemed fitting on Father's Day, 2015. I'm eternally grateful to have had a father who took me on new and exciting excursions and my heart is warmed when I see other fathers who do the same. Sometimes I think i'll be wasted as a mother, as I would certainly have been a fantastic father.

Please don't see this as a cry for help or a reason to call Vanity Fair - that was not a Caitlyn Jenner moment by any stretch of the imagination.

Allow me to paint a picture for you of how mellow an off season Sunday is in Punta Del Este. The street lights, scattered every few blocks are turned off. Not the flashing red or yellow, as you may have seen stateside, they are literally off - evidently trusting your fellow man really means something down here.

Part California beach town part Santorini, the architecture here is confused, but beautiful. Couples come out hand in hand, dog leash laws be damned, carting their mate gourd glasses and thermoses to walk the perimeter of the peninsula seemingly just for the enjoyment of it. Imagine that!

Noisy birds and slow moving cars are the only distraction from the tranquility this town has to offer.

























After returning back to Milano I bathed under the rain showewr and gathered myself. Ready to face the day. Retracing my steps from my morning run I meandered the roads looking for nourishment, as I was hungry and chairs were just being set out and dusted off at for business at noon! I made my way back out to the far end of town where I had spotted two statues facing the crashing waves. Upon closer inspection I saw that they were terribly dilapidated mermaids, built from stone and tile into the rock formations that guard the shore. With pert exposed breasts, naked and facing the sun I realized my instincts were right and this was the perfect place to leave a part of my father on this particular journey; on this particular day. Having lived in a childhood home where ladies in various states of undress were either hung on the wall or hanging from his arm I knew my dad would be pleased with my selection and most definitely let out one of his distinctive lion laughs. 

Out on the rocky cliff I dropped bits of grey dust and bone into the ocean. As I watched the sprinkled remnants sink to the sea floor I hoped some fish would swallow them whole and that my father could live on in more than just me (and my sister, of course).

Neil Young allowed me a moment of my own, alone on the cliff with my 'Old Man.'

Back past the Virgin again and I finally located food, and wifi in the way of El Pasiva. I had warmed from the walk, going so far as to take off my jacket for the first time this week but quickly found when seated on the patio at this laid back eatery I would not only need to re-bundle, but exercise patience - needless to say speedy service was not their strong suit.

Served the very specific and unique part of the chicken that seems to consist mostly of oil as skin coupled with a salad, the bulk of which was sliced onion, accompanied by some shredded carrots and an egg - no lettuce in sight - was disappointing. Famished, not having eaten for well over 12 hours I devoured the papas fritas and picked around the healthy parts of the meal, for which I had been immensely proud of myself for ordering. When the bill came and totaled over 800 pesos my pride faded.

Back to the bus terminal I painfully fumbled through my ever decaying Spanish and hopped another COT bus for the low low price of about 3 bucks to head 30 minutes outside of town to Casapueblo.

As a hotel I had seen this Spanish-inspired structure and considered staying here as a hotel guest, but when I saw they were booked until I'd likely be in the throws of menopause I made it a day trip out to see Carols Paez Vilano's masterpiece and get to catch the sunset from the cliffs, a must do when visiting the south of Uruguay.

A handsome man with fantastically bushy caterpillar eyebrows assisted in my exit from the bus along the highway, casually pointing to a blue sign saying Bienvenedos a Casapueblo. I took a right and rambled down a very long, very poorly labeled road in hopes of reaching my destination; of reaching a destination before night fell and the well mannered dogs that roam the streets free here would not have my carcass upon which to feast - lord knows they could eat for weeks!

Finally, I reached my the end of the road, part parking lot, part awe inspiring architecture. A quick right and you're at Casapueblo. To say breathtaking is an understatement. Built into the side of a mountain, on a perfect central coast California day, the water sparkled like tinsel on a tree and the stark white building, Gaudi meets Greece, is both literally and figuratively a work of art.

































For 200 pesos you can gain entrance to the gallery and purchase over priced reproductions of Carlos Paez Vilaro's work, as I did. Sadly most of the property seems to be closed off either for construction or for privacy, but the view is gorgeous and you can sweet talk your way into the terrace to enjoy a Coca Cola Lite an an alfajor, a treat easily found in these parts. A merengue covered cookie filled with something icky, so I just pick around it like a petulant child, was delicious. They sell these at my local bodega as well, but I can say with absolute certainty they look nothing like this!

Basking in the late afternoon sun, feeling the freckles multiply on my browning face I consumed massive amounts of sugar, listened to Brazilian jazz, and sat. Sat in the sun. Sat in the quiet. Sat in the solitude.

Tears once again invaded my big brown eyes, as they are wont to do - but for a couple opposing reasons. It is so beautiful here and in this moment I am content. As at peace as I felt, I will admit, my heart yearn for someone with whom to share these moments - a feeling I used to be ashamed of, as I saw wanting a partner as a sign of weakness but a subject on which I have since changed my tune.

The way I see it, I am a compassionate, witty, adventurous  woman and truth be told, a champ in the sack (sorry, Mom). Knowing that I want a man, an equal, a partner to share my already fairly kick ass life with is a sign of strength, not weakness. As I mentioned the other day, I believe in my heart I've already met this man - now we just need to wait for things to fall into place and for his spirit to commingle with mine. It will happen. Of this I am sure. After all, thoughts are physical.

After a few more moments of tranquil peace selfie season began and the Brazilian tourists descended upon my nice little terrace and took a barrage of shots in every combination known to man. Luckily they also have no sense of personal space (insert Lee Greenwood jam here), so the fact that their altered butts and sweatered elbows hit me multiple times not only didn't give them a moments pause, it didn't even elicit a brief pardon. Reading a chapter in Bobos In Paradise about everyone thinking themselves a celebrity couldn't have come at a better time.

With about an hour to spare before sunset, I made my way out of Casapueblo and hiked down the hill to hopefully get a better vantage point of the property and have some moments with the sunset. The deck had been so warm my cheeks pinked but as the sky turned a dusty rose my face blanched a grInga white once again.

Despite some kids smoking a joint (legally everywhere in Uruguay, I might add), the sunset was lovely and I became acutely aware that I have witnessed countless beautiful sunsets all over this planet and for that I was filled with gratitude.

After the show was over, so to speak, a line of cars made their way out and I, the only sunset enthusiast on foot, hightailed it back to the bus stops in Chucks, making it to the parrara just in time to catch the city bus, a significantly lower fair than the posh COT but just as functional.

I drank in the light lined the coast as I headed back to Punta Del Este, knowing with sweet melancholy that this would be my last night in a city I've so thoroughly, if not leisurely, enjoyed.


Back in town I made a pit stop at the local minimart to have my own little corporate picnic back in my hotel room, purchasing goods from a man eager to talk about New York and California (I claimed to be from 'los dos') and, after getting my third converter on this trip, camped out for the evening.





















Nerds, salami and sparking water in bed. Who could ask for more?






Saturday, June 20, 2015

La Mano y El Corazon



From what I hear positivity is a choice and and try as I might I don't always succeed is seeing the bright side.

This difficulty often arises first thing in the morning. As I open my eyes (or eye as the case may be with my current health situation), before I can organize my thoughts, or set my intention for the day, my heart hurts.

I'm not sure where the term broken heart came from, as my understanding after something is snapped in two it can suffer no more, but that is simply not the case. It can be crushed, and smushed. Or perhaps it should be called heart torture, as mine feels like it is water boarded on a daily basis. Attacked from all sides.

I realize there is no point in inhabiting this emotion. After all, it's only a feeling. Something temporary, but when the temporary lasts longer than expected, longer than acceptable, the pain can be quite difficult to ignore.

This very morning I defiantly dragged myself out from under the warm, dense fortress of my borrowed bed and dressed. Dressed for the chilly world that awaits outside.

Needless to say my bad ass pep talk from the night prior was left on the pillow case, along with my drool.

Waking in time for the complimentary breakfast I headed downstairs in order to drink some hot tea and choose from a myriad of food products bound to spike my blood sugar first thing in the morning. Perhaps that mixed with the juxtaposition of piped in Frank Sinatra jams would assist in lifting my spirits.

























Rounding the corner to grab the CA1 bus to Tres Cruces I couldn't help but marvel and the stunning and ubiquitous street art blanketing this otherwise drab city and spent the 30 minute bus ride listening to American music popular when my parents were children and watching the world go by.

No one here speaks English yet the Beatles and the Goo Goo Dolls are on the public bus soundtrack... I'm suspect.

Luckily the bus brought me in a new direction, different than my journeys on foot the few days I've spent here, unfortunately this just offered more views of very loosely deemed pizzerias and endless leather shops selling Spice Girls inspired platform boots, the seeming footwear of choice in Montevideo.

By the time STP began to yodel through the speakers I thought for sure I was on the Delorean of buses, traveling back in time to my pubescent, the birth place of my battle with emotional distress; the birth place of my battle for independence - though the two are not inextricably linked.

Safely deposited at Tres Cruces I located COT and paid the 250 Uruguayan pesos for my first class ticket while an old woman yelled at the poor young ladies behind the desk. Wishing desperately I could understand what was so upsetting to her I politely took my ticket and went to wait with the other droves upon the primary colored plastic seats. There are moments in my travels where I feel so comfortable or distracted that I need to pinch myself - remind myself that I am in fucking Uruguay. That I'm half way around the world, alone on an adventure. I think like anything, one becomes so accustomed to something they take it for granted and I am certainly guilty of that. Though sitting in the subterranean mall of the bus station isn't super sexy I do realize it is a place none of my compatriots have been uncomfortably seated, nor have I prior to this, and for that I am grateful.

I am also grateful to watch the Soul Glo John Oats look alike seated across from me partake in the ritual of drinking Yerba mate tea - something commonplace in the culture down here and though steel thermoses now seem to be employed for those wanting to drink on the run the entire process seems arduous with the straw and loose leaf tea and special mug. It is both confusing and admirable - I always appreciate native cultural traditions being practiced, even if exercised while wearing a Quicksilver sweater.

On the bus and on my way I was mildly irked that the man next to me had seemingly stole my window seat, but since the city isn't much at which to gander I let it go and made myself comfortable. It wasn't until about 45 mins into the ride when an adorable young boy sporting his soccer team championship jacket told me 15 was his seat that I was aided in realizing I was on the wrong bus.

Fortunately I dealt with this is the way any educated, sophisticated, well traveled upstanding citizen would - I exclaimed motherfucker.

Unable to calm down and go with the flow in numerous factions of my life, travel is not one of them and I spoke to the conductor, located another seat, and headed for Punts del Este. The warmth of the bus cabin and slow rocking motion put me almost immediately to sleep in my new asiento and by the time I woke, an hour had gone by and the bleak greys of the city had been replaced with Kelly green rolling hills. 

Finally I made it to parrara Punta del Este and de-boarded, checking my notes for the name of my hotel for the next two days. I located the taxi stand and got in the back with my two black bags, letting the driver know I needed to get to hotel Milano. That's when he turned the engine off.

Immensely appreciative that he chose to step out of the vehicle and point in the direction of the hotel, about 3 blocks away, as opposed to driving me around town and charging me tourist prices I wished him well and schlept on over to the Mediterranean inspired abode.

It smelled of paint but the beach was a block away and the tiny beds looked well taken care of - I was content. A little wifi break would do me good before hitting the mean streets of this sleepy beach town.

Having booked this trip for very specific reasons on very specific dates I can never, especially with the joys of wifi and an iPhone, escape reality.

3 days ago marked the 1 year anniversary of my father's unexpected passing. I had wanted to be away from the world in which I regularly function because it makes it easier not to think about the fear and pain and gaping hole that day left in it's wake. I am so fortunate to have people in my life that love me and who want to make it known they care about me, but a cryptic or prophetic text on a day such as that just sort of stings.

Ellen Degeneres had a joke in a standup special from years back about how when someone accidentally walks in on you in a public restroom and apologizes your immediate reaction is 'that's ok' as if you're inviting them in to watch you wipe. 

Today, when accessing wifi at the hotel I got a message from a friend telling me I could call her tomorrow if I needed to talk. We went back and forth a couple times before I asked why the offer was made and it was then that she reminded me it would be Father's Day. Of course!  I thanked her for her generous offer and display of love but I had almost forgotten tomorrow was Father's Day and was left with no other option that to essentially invite her to watch me wipe.

The pain is there whether someone points it out or not. It's just that sometimes, you wish they wouldn't.

Pulling myself together and my greasy hair back, I headed back toward the bus station which happens to be adjacent to the only tourist attraction I've seen on postcards from this part of the world - a huge statue if a hand coming out of the sand. Photo op complete I went down to the ocean to a) ensure all of my clothing and camera gear would become embedded with sand for the rest of my trip and b) with it being a balmy 21 degrees, the warmest it's been since I got here, To sit on the beach, listen to the waves, and be as close to my father as I can be.

After watching a father and daughter build a sand castle with traces of envy I made my way to the main drag filed with eateries and souvenir shops. Never knowing what to get my nephews, as they don't seem to like anything I ever get them I decided to get a taste of home and head to the local BK for food and free wifi. 

This did not taste nothing like home, but it did give me a chance to FaceTime with a dear friend and her tank topped husband so it was well worth the 350 pesos.

After gazing lovingly at my spirit animal in the form of the most obedient and patient Dalmatian ever waiting for his owners just outside f the glass facade I traversed the peninsula to catch the sunset.


Finding a bench where just BJ (Billy lets me call him that) and I could sit and watch the sunset quietly together seemed like the perfect end to a mellow day, but the bench I selected must have been next to a placard designating this an official selfie spot because it was not long until some Spanish speaking family of tourists smiled and posed until their hearts content unacceptably close to me. Luckily as that door closed, another opened and I found a long, narrow cement dock on which I could dangle my feet above the ocean and watch the sky marble into shades of orange and pink and the sun cloaked itself in spotty clouds and eventually dipped below the line of horizon, leaving streaks of Lisa Frank hues.

A long walk along the planked boardwalk led me to the tip of the peninsula and back again, this time with stops for both yet another pair of new earrings ad, in the dead of winter, ice cream. Knowing that the calories in my pistachio and menthe cone are like resistant magnets to my ass when in another time zone I felt no guilt while devouring the myriad of greens swirled to perfection into a sugar cone think and dense.

Evidently someone had been jay walking in this city that seems to shut down even earlier than the capitol, as there was a sole police car outside of the ice cream shop with no sign of crime or accident. 





























Looping back around to my home for the evening the night air sank deep into my bones and I kew it was time to tuck myself in.

As I entered Hotel Milano I got the rush of renting a new apartment, due to the foreign environment as well as the strong perfume of fresh, cheap paint haphazardly splashed upon the walls. Making my way up to the second floor and sliding the key into the door marked room 18 led me to two small twin beds (do they make a smaller size?) and a flat screen TV. 

After a scalding hot shower I took the remnants of my skin and wrapped it in as much clothing as I could before burying myself under plaid blankets and using the remote to locate the only channel without dubbed programming. For the intellectual Uruguayan there were subtitles on a movie that barely held my interest but at least spoke my language.

It took me nearly an hour to realize I was half way into a Father's Day marathon. Proof further there is truly no escape.

'Till tomorrow...